Yesterday my civil procedure tutorial generated into family law, one single question and the tables had been turned.
Interrogatories had morphed into Divorce.
The lecturer’s assistant _ brilliant lawyer if I may say so, not only answered the question but fueled the change of topic some more :-)
He went on to tell us how he had recently refrained from doing divorce cases, because 98% of the time, it was guaranteed to turn nasty, and if you were married or in some relationship you would be tempted to start sniffing around for all manner of signs before the alarm bells go off, and before long you'll start being way to careful and paranoid.
He was of the opinion that; the main reason for the sky rocketing divorce rate was the long period of courtship_ huh?
His argument was simply this; courtship is a pretence period, where each partner puts up a show for the other, so despite dating for many years 4, 5, 6, 7, 10 12 ; 60% or more is pretense. That is how come within the first six months of marriage most couples realise they are strangers to each other.
So his policy is this; when you meet that person you truly believe you cannot live without, that one person who cannot live without you, marry quickly and start getting to know each other better, it is only by living with that significant other,that you can truly get to know him. or her and adapt quickly in learning to accommodate that person.
Otherwise you may be left with false expectations and you'll find yourself thinking aloud “but when we were dating this is not how he or she would normally have reacted to A, B or C
One side of my brain appreciates this view somewhat, the other half is like_ HUH!
Hmm... is there any weight to his argument?